Tuesday, February 20, 2018

R.I.P. Annie: Find Happiness, Cherish the Past, Move On (End of 'Letters to Annie' Series)


Dear Annie,

It’s been two years since you passed away and it was one of the hardest times that I have ever experienced in my life. At that time, I was completely lost, unable to express what had just happened to those who are close to me, and refused to allow the process of healing begin by closing myself off from everyone around me.

I know that you will never read this letter… but I which our daughter will. Now that you’re gone. Dealing with your death changed me forever, and the second I accepted that was the second I found the strength to live the life I had always dreamed of. I will never be ashamed of my (our) past. It was part of the wounds that makes my life beautiful. I will not give up! Losing you is a painful reminder that life is way too short and precious to be sad all the time. I have found someone else. She is beautiful and she loves the Lord deeply. I know that you would want nothing more than for me to be happy — not the day-to-day-getting-by-content-happy – but truly happy. With her, I have joy!

When you’re gone, I used to tell myself, “Keep yourself busy.” I did. But now I realised that keeping myself busy doing something that doesn’t make me happy only made me more miserable. It didn’t make the time go by faster — it made each day seem more and more meaningless. So, I keep myself busy taking the time to figure out what it is that I love to do and what God would want me to do. Even though you’re gone, God is here with me. He is my hope – my only hope! I’m grateful that God never leave me. And that is most important than continuously missing you. Is this not the perfect time for me to live with purpose? To motivate myself, embrace my newfound strength and take a chance to wake up every morning grateful? What makes me happy? God! Annabel, our daughter! Family! Friends! Colleagues! And her.

I appreciate our time together. Memories and conversations that we had. But I will move on. I must move on. I’m moving on. I learned that through these struggles (in the past) build my character. My experiences make me unique. I will not be ashamed of our past but from now on, I savour the present and I will only look at the future – with God and His Spirit. With our daughter and someone new.

                                    Regards,
Richard

[To read all of the precious Letters to Annie, click HERE]

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Monday, February 19, 2018

Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F#ck (2016) by Mark Manson



The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F#ck:
A Counterintuitive Approach to Living A Good Life
(2016)
by Mark Manson

I'm not self-help-books fan, I was but not now, but this one spoke to me: "The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience."

Begin with this quote, Mark Manson shows that not giving a f*ck about many things in life is good for the soul - only focus on more important things that matters to you and your values. I've written summary for every chapter of this book, read here: http://idea4today.blogspot.my/search/label/The%20Subtle%20Art%20of%20Not%20Giving%20A%20F*ck%20%28Mark%20Hanson%29?m=0 Enjoy!

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Book Review: Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World (2016)



Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World (2016) by Adam Grant

Referencing research and many studies, best-selling author Adam Grant explores what it takes to be creative, innovative and champion new ideas. In Originals, Grant not only offers stories of great accomplishments but also dissects exactly how these accomplishments were achieved. He debunks the idea that originals are great risk-takers. Most of America’s founding fathers were reluctant revolutionaries. Martin Luther King writes that he was pushed into service as leader of the Montgomery Bus Boycott before he had a chance to say “no.” Bill Gates eventually dropped out of college but only after first securing a leave of absence from the university and ensuring that his parents would support him. Originals, Grant argues, “are more risk-mitigators than risk-takers.” They are not the firsts to think about change or idea, Grant said, “Being original doesn’t require being first. It just means being different and better.”

Grant also emphasizes that originals are not only successful because they are creative and nonconformist but because they also turn their ideas and their dreams into reality. They find a way to overcome resistance to change, sometimes through counterintuitive strategies. This enlightening 335-page book includes the following eight chapters:

#0 Foreword by Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook
#1 Creative Destruction
#2 Blind Inventors and One-Eyed Investors
#3 Out on a Limb
#4 Fools Rush In
#5 Goldilocks and the Trojan Horse
#6 Rebel with a Cause
#7 Rethinking Groupthink
#8 Rocking the Boat and Keeping It Steady

I like this book, simple and exciting :) Although, I think that this book is too US… too Americans… But nevertheless, fully recommended!

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